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Top of Mind: October 23, 2014
October 27th, 2014
by Bill Boyajian

Anger

We all get angry from time to time, but some more than others.  Most anger stems from insecurity and often results in saying or doing something that we later regret.  Anger is an expression of what is going on inside us.

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Fear is a big cause of anger and it makes us insecure.  It shows a lack of stability and an unsettled heart.  Some people are guilt-driven.  Others are simply bitter, seemingly mad at the world and everyone in it.

We can all get hurt or frustrated.  But how we handle it is a testament to our personal security and maturity.  A gentle and encouraging word reveals a peaceful and thoughtful heart.  What a contrast to the bitterness and anger that we can all at times show.

The message below, from an unknown author, best demonstrates the point I’m making.

 
Nails in the Fence

There once was a little boy who had a bad temper.  His Father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence.

The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence.  Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down.  He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.  Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all.

He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper.  The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone.

The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence.  He said, ‘ You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence…  The fence will never be the same.  When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one.  You can put a knife in a man and draw it out.  But it won’t matter how many times you say I’m sorry, the wound will still be there.  A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one.’

 
Here are a few Business & Life Tips to think about…..

Business Tips:

  • Your job as a leader is to set direction, establish priorities, harness resources, cultivate people, and empower them as a team.
  • Want to build your business? Then give exceptional service and don’t skimp on your product quality.
  • Learn to say no to things you don’t have to be involved in so you have time to say yes to those really worthwhile endeavors.

Life Tips:

  • When you finally stop searching for the unreachable, you’ll discover peace of mind and contentment from within.
  • Listen more than you talk. Finish what you start. Treat people fairly. Care more. The best advice is often the most simple.
  • Health is often neglected until problems occur. Wellness is a lifestyle choice. Make it sooner than later.


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