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People Who Make You Crazy
January 13th, 2015
by Bill Boyajian

We all have them.  We can’t avoid them.  Some people just make you nuts.  Hopefully, it’s not someone you live with…..

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How do you handle people who get under your skin, who always seem to push your buttons?  Here’s a simple, three-step process that will help:

1. Recognize that some people try to drag you down to their level of maturity.  When they accomplish their goal, you are at their mercy.  And mercy isn’t their strong suit.  You will lose the battle when you’re stuck in their territory.  Rule #1: Don’t fall into the trap of being dragged down to a less professional level of maturity.
2. Politely end a conversation that is getting out of hand.  This will likely make your “crazy-maker” nuts because you will be regaining control.  Control is what the person wants.  Control is what you have to maintain.  Rule #2: Politely end an encounter that is getting out of control, and you will in turn gain control.
3. Be willing to re-engage when the person is willing to deal with you at your level of maturity.  When they come back to you with a sound mind, you are now able to have a rational, intelligent conversation that is under control, and that keeps you on your level of professionalism and maturity.  Rule #3: Re-engage when the person who gets under your skin realizes he or she isn’t going to win the battle.

I can’t guarantee this formula will work every time, or that you’ll never be bothered by people who make you crazy.  But I am sure that it can help.

Here’s to not going nuts!



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